MY STORYFROM DESPAIR TO EMPOWERMENT
MY STORYFROM DESPAIR TO EMPOWERMENT
“People don’t need fixing, they just need to be woken up”
I have battled with being a perfectionist, and a fear of expressing my emotions, for most of my life. I have learned to overcome certain limiting beliefs that were holding me back, and ultimately lead me to these unwanted characteristics of myself. I am on a mission to seek my human potential and live an extraordinary life.
Then My Life Changed…
On May 15, 2009, little did I know, my life would change forever. I started dating, my current wife, Allie. She was no ordinary girl: Hawaiian, zest for life, highly intelligent, and a beauty I thought could only exist in my imagination. There was one other thing about her that was extremely rare for her age (25 at the time), she had a terminal illness. A very rare form of Leukemia.
Despite the risk of losing her, and breaking my heart, I chose to keep loving her. She deserved to be loved, just like anyone else in this world. I thought “how selfish would it be to not let her embrace my love just because “I” don’t want to get hurt?”
This is the start of a journey that would inevitably turn my life upside down. All of my personal beliefs, limiting beliefs, fears, and truths, would all be called into question. My entire identity myself, and the world around me was no longer valid. At the time, I thought this was a terrible thing, what was the purpose of life if I didn’t have anything to believe in?
In January of 2010, I ended up hitting the lowest point in my entire life. I had seen the worst of what cancer can do to one person, both mentally and physically. The fear of losing Allie, and the fear that cancer had inflicted on me, was ravenous. I lost the identity of myself, all my beliefs and truths, and actually told Allie, I didn’t know if I wanted to be with her anymore. I took a week off work, and literally laid in bed the entire time. This was a turning point for me, as I was either going to crash and burn, or I was going to rise up. I chose to rise!
I made a conscious decision to use my learning experience as a source of inspiration and empowerment, whereas many would have experienced it as a failure. Unfortunately, many people in my circumstance bask in self-pity and despair, manifesting their own losses. I truly feel for these people, as not many people in this world can relate to them, I know from experience. One fascinating aspect of being human is that we have the power to change our own state, at will. Since I made this decision, I have been on an infinite mission.
I no longer fear cancer, we simply co-exist
2010, was the year my never-ending desire to learn began. I grew a strong passion for nutrition. Living with someone who had cancer sparked this passion, as I wanted to know how cancer develops and how it can be prevented. Over the next 6 years, my sole purpose was to immerse myself into learning everything I could about nutrition.
Countless books and videos flooded my brain. I learned everything from corruption, to politics, to curing disease, preventing disease, understanding research, and so much more. I will never forget these years, I was alive, with a purpose, a mission, and had so much fun.
In 2016, I was very satisfied with my knowledge of nutrition, I felt I had mastered it, and started to wonder what was next for myself. I wasn’t fulfilled yet. I thought my journey to mastering nutrition would have given me that sense of fulfillment, but it didn’t. There was something more for me, I could feel it. I struggled for a few months, trying to discover my next step to take.
It wasn’t until I reflected on why I love my job as a personal trainer and nutritionist, and my role as a caregiver, did I discover my life purpose. This is when I had the epiphany, it was my passion for changing the live’s of others.
As I reflected and became more aware of this epiphany, I paid more attention to how else I could help my clients and my wife. I started realizing how stressed they were, and how their mindset and perspectives manifested their own stressful state.
Instead of succumbing to despair, I manifested my life purpose
In late 2016, I had the biggest paradigm shift in my life, and the biggest one I will ever have. This is when I discovered Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), and meditation.
I knew with all my heart, that these discoveries were the answer to my question, I could just feel it. I am thoroughly enjoying the journey thus far, and am eternally grateful for life’s journey up until now, as I would not have discovered why I am here without it.
I stand to correct myself. In 2016, I did not have the biggest paradigm shift I will ever have. I cannot believe I ever tried to predict that!
Only 8 months later, I had an even bigger paradigm shift! This is when I discovered The Three Principles! Discovering the Three Principles understanding has, by far, had the largest impact on my life to date!
I learned my lesson there!
I will be posting as much content as time will allow, with all that I have learned up until now, and am learning along with my journey.
Allie is still here with us. We have stared cancer in the eye many times and told it to fuck off. It Listened
The Other Love Of My Life
This is our amazing dog Nacho. He was born on June 8, 2010. He is a mix of Shih Tzu, Lhasa Apso,
I have learned so much from him. The most important thing he has taught me is unconditional love, and what it means to love unconditionally.
It doesn’t matter if I am mad at him, I didn’t take him to the park that day, I didn’t pay much attention to him, he has always loved me the same, no exceptions.
The one part of my day I always look forward to, regardless of circumstance, is taking him to his “park park”. It is a great time for us to bond, and for me to steer away from any of life’s stresses, and practice mindfulness.
Being at the park with him reminds me that we’re all one with each other, and with nature. There is no better feeling, and for the times I lose touch with myself, it breathes life back into me instantly.
Michael Neill – Michael is without a doubt my #1 mentor for my own personal development and also my coaching development. I first discovered Michael from reading his book Supercoach. His 2 best sellers are The Inside Out Revolution and
Sydney Banks – I first heard about Sydney Banks through an understanding called the Three Principles that I first heard about through Michael Neill’s book Supercoach. I discovered Sydney after researching further into the Three Principles. Sydney was a small town welder that had no spiritual practice. On vacation one day a miracle happened, he had a spontaneous enlightenment experience that changed his life forever. This is what led him to The Three Principles understanding of the human experience. He has written several books on this understanding, unfortunately, there aren’t many video clips as creating video wasn’t as popular 10-20 years ago as it is now.
Anthony Robbins – Tony is at the forefront of personal development. I am a huge fan of his, I have watched several hours of video from his seminars, and read all of his books. Much of what he teaches is based on NLP, with his own spin on it. If you actually take the time to apply what he teaches, it will change your life forever, I speak from experience.
Leo Gura – I also discovered Leo on YouTube when the title of one of his videos caught my eye. His videos are not for everyone, they are extremely philosophical. You must have an extremely open mind to even begin to understand his videos. All of your current beliefs and perspectives will be brought into question. This is what I really like about Leo, he is able to speak the unspeakable, by putting words to subjects that seem in-explainable with words.
Alan Aragon – Alan is known for his infamous research review called “Nutrient timing revisited: is there a post-exercise anabolic window?“. I am subscribed to his monthly research review, in which he gives his professional feedback on a number of nutritional related studies each month. He breaks each study down to the core, unravelling every aspect of the study. He is a great resource for discovering perspectives you may have never even considered.
There are numerous other authority figures I think very highly of and have learned a great deal from. I have watched countless hours of video and read many books, learning from them. Although they are not a mentor, they deserve much recognition for the role they played in my development, for without them I wouldn’t know all I know today.
Before You Go
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