How would you like to be able to make better decisions just by asking yourself 2 shockingly simple questions? These 2 questions will have the power to rock your beliefs, shift your perspective immediately, and create clarity before you make a decision that could lead to a costly mistake.
Don’t let their simplicity fool you, make sure you read the backstory to each question to understand why they are so powerful and how to use them effectively.
Undesired Feelings Lead to Undesired Actions
I use these 2 questions on a daily basis any time I have a thought in my head that is creating undesired feelings or I want more clarity with my thoughts. Being aware that our actions are largely driven by emotion, I ask these 2 questions to ensure I don’t make decisions that I might later regret.
You can ask the 2 questions any time, but where they really shine is when you’re experiencing dilemma or undesired emotions. They will provide you with a source of emotional intelligence that has been previously untapped.
Objective: Separate Thought from Reality
Reality is defined as what actually happened or is happening without our thoughts attached to it.
A thought is defined as the meaning we give or the opinion we have on what has happened or is happening.
When you’re truly able to see that your entire experience of life is based on a thought created reality, and not reality itself, you will experience true freedom.
Let’s get to it, shall we?
Question #1: Is it really true?
I first came across this question through the work of Byron Katie, in her life-changing books of profound simplicity. The 2 books of hers that I read are A Mind at Home with Itself: How Asking Four Questions Can Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart and Turn Your World Around and Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life.
What I love about this question is how it helps us separate our thoughts from reality. Or in more general terms, see through our made up bull shit.
Say someone you love in your life didn’t wish you Happy Birthday on the day of your Birthday, what does this mean? You may have thoughts such as “they don’t love me” “I’m obviously not important to them” etc.
Now you can ask this question to separate reality from your thoughts.
The thought – “They don’t love me”…Is it really true? No (it’s your opinion, and an opinion you don’t have to believe)
The reality – They didn’t say Happy Birthday. (that’s it, nothing more, any additions to this reality are thought created illusions)
Initially, you will notice A LOT of resistance toward letting go of the thought that is purely opinion based and separate from reality. This is normal. Merely asking the question “is it really true?” will plant a seed of doubt on its’ own.
After asking this question, if you sit with the thought long enough, you will start to notice that the chokehold it has on you will start to loosen and you will notice fresh new thoughts starting to breathe through.
This is all you need, a crack in the foundation, the next question will crumble it.
Question #2: Does/Will believing this thought serve the greater good?
You must first understand that the answer to this question must come from you, not your ego. Your ego will want to preserve itself as all it cares about is itself, nobody else. If the thought in your head only serves you and nobody else then you can bet it is ego based.
Using the example from above:
The thought – “They don’t love me”…Does/Will it serve the greater good?
Let’s look at both sides
Yes, believing this thought will serve the greater good.
What are the actions that you might take if you believe this thought will serve the greater good?
- Ignore this person
- Neglect to wish them Happy Birthday when theirs comes
- Voice your dismay to your friends and family, possibly creating conflict
- Treat this person with resentment
Is it a pleasant feeling that you carry inside when you resent another?
How do you treat others when you have resentment inside you?
Do these actions serve you being your best self?
Do these actions serve others?
If you’re being truthful, the answer to all of those will be a resounding no.
No, believing this thought won’t serve the greater good.
What are the actions that you might take if you don’t believe this thought will serve you or the greater good?
- Reach out to them from a place of concern to make sure they’re OK because it is unusual for them to not say Happy Birthday
- Wait non-judgingly until the next day, maybe something happened, such as their phone or internet being cut off
Try it and let me know how it goes!
I would love to hear your experience with applying these 2 questions to your thoughts. Share your experience or ask any questions you may have in the comments below!
Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.