The Simple Equation That Generates Creativity

The Simple Equation That Generates Creativity

I hear many people say they aren’t creative, yet creativity is innate. We each have access to a wellspring of creativity. Unfortunately, some people don’t seem to be aware of this. We all have equal access to the same source of creativity.

Think of creativity as the sun and your personal thinking as the clouds, just because on a cloudy day you can’t see it, that doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

Here is the definition of creativity as per the Merriam-Webster DictionaryThe ability to create

I think one misconception people have is that creativity comes in the form of art. Leading them to believe that because they aren’t interested in art, or they aren’t good at art (in their opinion), then that means they aren’t creative.

Art is just one form of creativity. Creativity can come through in many areas of life and work. Think of creativity as finding a new way to think of something or do something. To create something original for you in your life or create a new way of thinking.

Examples of creativity:

You could create a new perspective on:

  • Money
  • Your relationships
  • Politics
  • Forgiveness
  • Love

You could create:

  • A new recipe
  • More value at work
  • Other avenues to make money
  • More meaningful relationships
  • A morning/evening ritual

When it comes to being creative, the options are infinite. Any time you have created something in your life you have used your creativity.

If we’re all creative beings, how do we access our innate creativity?

The simple equation that generates creativity is this:

New Thought

A new thought comes from…well, who knows. All we know is that we didn’t create it, we just observe it.

This is very different from our personal thinking, which you can think of as old thought. These are the thoughts that we have thought before, they are nothing new. They are personal to us because they are bound to us and regurgitated.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.”

– Albert Einstein

A single new thought can generate an insight that changes your entire life. A single new thought can give you the framework to create something new in the world.

So, how do we get new thoughts?

Space

If creativity is the sun and our personal thinking (old thoughts) are the clouds, a little less attention to our personal thinking will allow the sun to peak through. A cloudless sky isn’t necessary to see the light, all that is needed is a momentary gap between clouds to shed some light.

We don’t need a blank mind to allow our creativity to come through. We just need to pay a little less attention to our personal thinking and allow a momentary gap for a new thought to come through.

We use our creativity to create a version of ourselves every single moment of every day. You can’t, not be creative.

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

The Simple Equation That Proves Nobody Can Make You Feel A Certain Way

The Simple Equation That Proves Nobody Can Make You Feel A Certain Way

The following equation reveals the only source of our feelings, good or bad. Since most people don’t factor in one component of the equation, they lead themselves to believe a lie, and in my opinion, it’s also the main source of suffering and despair in the world.

I also think it’s the greatest source of life’s illusion, especially when it comes to chasing things like money, prestige, happiness, peace, love and status.

The simple equation that creates your feelings is this:

However, most people live by this equation:

The Grand Illusion And Taking Your Power Back

“You make me happy”

“You piss me off!”

“Traffic makes my blood boil”

“My job stresses me out”

How many times have you heard yourself say any of those? I know I used to say the first two ALLLLLL the time.

Now that I don’t blame others or circumstances for how I feel, I feel so much freedom because I am the only one who can make myself feel any which way about anything.

When we blame the outside world for what is going on in our inside world we’ve given all of our power away. We’ve granted permission to anything or anyone outside of us to create our feelings.

Although this is actually never the case, so long as we believe that this is how our feelings are created we’re rendered powerless. We then live by this equation:

Circumstance – THOUGHT = Feeling = Powerless

The missing link that doesn’t get factored in is thought.

In order to maintain power over your feelings, you must understand that it’s your own thoughts about another person, what they may have said, or a circumstance, that creates your feelings.

Circumstance + THOUGHT = Feeling = Power

It is our thoughts about who this person is and what they mean to us that makes us happy, not them.

It is our thoughts about what they said about us that pisses us off, not them.

It is our thoughts about traffic that makes our blood boil, not the traffic itself.

It is our thoughts about our job that stress us out, not the job itself.

Feelings are the children of thoughts, and without thoughts, they cease to exist.

The mere understanding of this can grant you hope no matter the circumstance because you’re no longer reliant on a world outside of you to change how you feel. Only you have the power to do that.

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

How To Easily Get Back On Track When You’re Feeling “Off”

How To Easily Get Back On Track When You’re Feeling “Off”

Another recent trend I’ve noticed is how confused people tend to get when they go off track and start feeling a little bit “off”. I’ve noticed this with myself in the past and more recently in conversations with my wife and clients. (I’m just starting to notice I tend to have a knack for trend and pattern recognition lol)

Maybe we took a wrong turn somewhere and feel lost.

Maybe we derailed and feel stuck.

Maybe we’ve been daydreaming and are oblivious to where we are.

All understandable explanations of our undesired predicament.

If we feel lost, we tend to retrace our steps to see where we took that wrong turn. Then, since more times than not, we have no idea where that is, we start asking ourselves for directions to get going in the right direction again.

Hint: It’s not wise to ask someone who’s lost for directions.

If we feel stuck, we can have a tendency to let our frustrations get the best of us. Before we know it, poor decision after poor decision keeps piling up and our stuckness becomes more and more insurmountable.

Hint: It’s not wise to ask someone who’s frustrated to make important decisions.

If we feel oblivious to where we are, we tend to flail our arms for anyone to see (including ourselves) in hopes that someone will see us (including ourselves), we’ll be rescued and then live happily ever after.

Hint: Flailing arms has never really been a great tactic when dealing with an illusion.

If it’s not wise to ask someone who’s lost for directions…

If it’s not wise to ask someone who’s frustrated to make important decisions…

If flailing arms has never really been a great tactic when dealing with an illusion…

What the heck do we do?

No more confusion necessary…

Do nothing but understand one thing…

The only reason we’ll ever feel “off” is that we’ve disconnected from ourselves. This disconnection creates the illusion that we’re lost. It creates the illusion that we’re stuck. It creates the illusion that we’re oblivious to where we are.

This disconnection is created through neglecting what I like to call our soul nourishment, or for the less spiritual, our love to do’s. When we stop doing the things that nourish our soul or the things we love to do, we start to disconnect.

Therefore, once we become aware of this, we can then retrace our steps and pinpoint when this neglect began. This will always be the case.

For example, I love to read, write blog posts, write poems, use my creativity, be in nature (preferably with my dog), feed my body nourishing food, coach people toward their goals, transform people’s lives through conversations, do Yoga, workout at the gym, and have my quiet time.

In the past, whenever I neglected to follow through on several of these over a period of time, I started to feel lost, stuck and oblivious.

What do you love to do?

What do you have a passion for?

Integrate one or more of these into your daily routine. It’s easy to overlook the simplicity of this but…

don’t mistake simplicity for lack of power, complexity is fools gold.

Keep it simple, there is nothing more you need to do than nourish your soul or do all the things you love to do and are passionate about, and do them consistently.

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

2 Of The Biggest Myths About Meditation And Finding Peace Of Mind

2 Of The Biggest Myths About Meditation And Finding Peace Of Mind

If you have struggled with either finding peace of mind or starting/maintaining a consistent meditation practice then these are probably the same truths that you believe to be myths. They’re likely the same truths that are keeping you from finding a peace of mind or a meditation practice. I would like to clear the air for you in hopes that it will propel you forward.

After numerous conversations with people, I have taken notice of the same reasons that keep coming up as to why they apparently can’t meditate or find peace of mind.

Myth/Truth #1: “I can’t stop thinking”

If you attempt to meditate or find peace of mind by means of stopping your thinking then you will be thoroughly disappointed, to the point that you will most likely want to quit.

Think of your thoughts travelling on a never-ending conveyor belt, doing loop, after loop, after loop. This conveyor belt doesn’t have an off button, nor does it even have a pause button, it loops infinitely.

Each time the conveyor belt comes around to you, it brings with it a random set of thoughts.

Some thoughts may be the same as you had just 1 minute ago.

Others may be regurgitated thoughts you had hours, days, weeks, months, or even years ago.

While other thoughts may be brand new, never ever seen before.

This conveyor belt runs on an infinite power source, as does your conscious awareness. This power source never dies. Even when you’re dead and your conscious awareness is no longer brought to life, this infinite conveyor belt will continue to run, supplying thoughts to the conscious awareness of others.

Nobody knows where these thoughts come from, some say God, some say the divine, some say our creator, some say the universal life force etc. What we do know is that they appear seemingly out of nowhere, like the magic of pulling a rabbit out of an empty hat.

Since we can’t stop the conveyor belt that delivers our thoughts, can we at least control it?

Myth/Truth #2: “I can’t control my thinking”.

If you meditate or search for peace of mind by means of controlling your thinking, once again, you will be thoroughly disappointed.

Now that you know your thinking will never stop so long as you’re alive and consciously aware, the next logical step for many people is trying to assert some form of control over them. This too, my friend, is a big myth.

This attempt to gain control typically comes from trying to choose which thoughts get placed on the conveyor belt or slow the conveyor belt down to slow down the rate at which your thoughts get delivered.

Just as we have zero control over being able to stop thoughts from popping into our head, we have zero control over which thoughts pop into our head.

You may now be starting to realize that you were never in control in the first place, that you just thought you were. This can be a very startling and mind-bending experience.

Surely we can slow down our thoughts, right? As far as I know, we can’t. However, we can most certainly create the illusion that our thoughts have slowed down.

I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “time flies when you’re having fun”. Time appears to speed up during those moments. Yet, when you’re bored time appears to slow to a crawl. This is the grand illusion of time.

When we’re stressed, panicked, overwhelmed, or in any similar state of mind, we are under this illusion that our thoughts are racing at a much faster pace than normal. Confusion tends to set in and we’re bouncing back and forth between thoughts.

When we’re peaceful, happy, content, or in any similar state of mind, we are under this illusion that our thoughts are slowed.

We can drive two different cars at the same speed and feel like we’re going faster in one car, and slower in the other. How is this possible? We use cues such as noise and vibration to estimate the speed of the car.

We use similar cues when we feel like our thoughts are moving faster or slower. When we’re in a state of stress our thoughts appear quite noisy, creating the illusion that noise equals speed. When we’re in a state of peace our thoughts appear to be much quieter, giving us the illusion that quiet equals slow.

Now That You Know This…

I hope this helps cut through the illusion of these two myths. Keep in mind that you are to observe your thoughts, you’re not trying to control them or stop them. The paradox here is that you gain some sense of control by relinquishing your attempt to control.

By understanding that you were never in control in the first place and still made it this far, seems pretty amazing considering you were probably oblivious to this all your life.

How can this understanding change your life now that you are aware of it?

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditation or Techniques

How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditation or Techniques

Although you arrived here wondering how to quiet your mind, I will talk less about the “how to” and direct you more toward that which you already know how to do. Don’t get me wrong, meditation and certain techniques are great, but what if you didn’t need a strategy every time you wanted to quiet your mind? What if all you need to know is how the mind really works?

Meditation Works But…

I meditate every morning for 15-20 minutes (30 minutes if you include Yoga), so I’m all for meditation as part of a daily routine. Meditation does help to quiet the mind, however, I don’t meditate with a goal to quiet the mind. I meditate to connect with my highest self, with the universe.

Meditating every morning over the past 18 months has taught me a lot about how the mind really works. One thing I learned is that I don’t want to have to meditate every time I want to quiet a noisy mind. If I’m driving and my mind won’t shut up, I don’t think to start a meditation, nor do I want to pull over to practice meditation in hopes of quieting my noisy mind.

All I want is to continue driving while enjoying a little more peace.

I’m sure you can also think of many situations where it is not conducive to initiate a meditation practice. You need something simpler and more practical.

What About NLP Techniques?

Similarly to meditation, NLP techniques can be effective for quieting the mind. NLP focuses heavily on manipulating the mind into receiving the desired result.

One of the techniques NLP teaches us to use is to treat our mind like a movie playing within a movie theatre. We can then manipulate the colours, maybe brighten or dim them, maybe change it to greyscale.

Then we have the sound of the movie. We can change the voices to sound like a munchkin, or maybe your favourite cartoon character. The characteristic of the movie that will be most appealing when trying to quiet your mind is the volume. We can increase the volume or decrease the volume.

It does work, but I find it only works for a very short period of time. Those booming thoughts want to be heard. So what happens, the volume seems to uncontrollably start ramping itself back up without our permission

You Already Know How To Quiet Your Mind

(you just didn’t think it could be this simple)

Have you ever been to a concert or a party and held a conversation with the person next to you, despite the booming base?

Have you ever been driving while completely tuning out the song on the radio in order to listen to the thoughts in your head?

Have you ever been driving while being completely immersed in thought only to hear your favourite song come on so you decide to tune out those thoughts and listen to your song?

Have you ever been hard at work while your co-worker is telling you a story you could give two shits about so you decide not to hear a word they say and focus on your work?

What were you able to do in each of those situations?

You were able to tune out what you didn’t want to listen to, what you didn’t want to pay attention to.

Imagine…

Imagine your mind as the booming base.

Imagine your mind as the song on the radio.

Imagine your mind as the words of your co-worker.

You don’t have to listen to your mind just because it’s your mind. If it has nothing appealing to say at the moment then tune it out, stop paying attention to it.

It’s only the thoughts we pay attention to that make noise.

Use your free will and choose the thoughts you actually want to pay attention to.

We’ve all been born with the innate ability to choose our thoughts. We don’t choose which thoughts pop into our head but we do get to choose which ones we pay attention to. Choose to give attention to the thoughts that serve you and practice tuning out the rest.

This is where meditation can become useful. Having a daily meditation practice can help you practice tuning out your thoughts.

You’ll Never Stop Thinking So Don’t Get Your Hopes Up

When many people are on the search for how to quiet their mind they seem to be searching for a remedy to stop thought completely. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, this will never happen.

Even the greatest Monks and Eastern spirituality Gurus will never stop their minds from thinking. What they are good at is tuning out their mind at will. Tuning out does have a settling effect in the mind so your thoughts will become clearer and more spacious.

The mind works like a radio that doesn’t have an off button, since you can’t turn it off you just have to learn to tune in when you want to listen and tune out when you don’t.

And remember, you know how to do it, don’t make it more complicated than it is.

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

The Simple Equation That Reveals Who You Really Are

The Simple Equation That Reveals Who You Really Are

This morning, I was meditating on a quote by Sydney Banks from his book The Missing Link, when all of a sudden this equation popped into my head. I didn’t ask for it, nor was I trying to generate any particular thoughts around the quote. I was just meditating to see what came up.

The equation that popped into my head is this:

However, most people live by this equation:

Understandably, the X will probably generate some curiosity.

What is the X?

What could it stand for?

For example, when I ask myself who I think I am, I receive answers like:

  • I’m a husband
  • I’m a son
  • I’m a brother
  • I’m a diversified coach
  • I’m honest
  • I’m Rob
  • I’m Love
  • I’m light
  • I’m inspired action

I’m all of those things and yet I am none of those things.

This is the paradox that gets a lot of people confused, probably even you right about now. This may get you wondering, how could he not be a husband, son, or brother when he is?

When I initially began exploring the true nature of who I am, I couldn’t fathom not being any of those things. It just didn’t make any sense. But then it clicked…

  • I am a husband (to my wife)
  • I am a son (to my parents)
  • I am a brother (to my sisters)
  • I am a diversified coach (to my clients)
  • I am honest (to my thoughts)
  • I am Rob (to the rest of the world)
  • I am love (to my thoughts)
  • I am light (to my thoughts)
  • I am inspired action (to my thoughts)

I’m all of those things to life outside of myself, and yes that includes my own thoughts (since they aren’t me). They are just labels to identify with myself and others who I am in the world.

When you ask yourself who you are, what comes to mind?

Whatever happens to come to mind is a self-constructed you, created by thought. You are whoever you think you are. The more you try to think about who you are, the further away you get from yourself.

The real you cannot be explained or described by thought. You are what comes before thought. You are the space between thoughts.

Any time you attach a thought to your identity, you are attempting to describe the indescribable. You’re labelling the person you think you areIf we require thought to be described then we are not it.

You are a miracle and miracles are in-explainable by science or your thinking.

We attempt to solve life’s mysteries via our own thoughts, yet our thoughts are arbitrary and a mystery in and of themselves.

Thoughts are a guidance system for your life, they aren’t who you are.

You’re the one who is observing your thoughts.

You can let other people’s thoughts of you determine who you are. You can let your own thoughts of yourself determine who you are. Yet, neither is entirely true.

You’re the one who isn’t trying to think your way into being somebody.

You’re the one who isn’t trying to be anybody.

You are the one…

Why do you need to be anyone other than that?

 

Learn from all of your experiences, opportunities are everywhere.

Take care,

Rob Kish

life coach toronto

Once we wake up to realize that we’re all master storytellers, we see the thoughts in our head, we see the pen in our hand, we see beyond the story.

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